Welcome,
My name is Tim and this site is devoted to dating and relationships. It is written to help us help each other in finding good, lasting, loving relationships through dating and communicating with men and women. If you notice I said us not others. This is because I need help just as much as anyone and hope through the feedback of others to get it.
First a little about myself.
I am a single, Christian, 44 year old African-American male who has never been married nor fathered any children. Most people would find that strange and I am asked all of the time how this has happened. The answer to this is complex.
I am very shy around people in general especially women (that's a post for another day). I am selective in my choice of women (anyone already in a relationship of any kind, married or single is off limits). I respect every woman that I am dating or in a relationship with. For that matter I respect every woman, period. I will never do anything that they do not want me to do. And, yes, I have been hurt a time or two so am a little gun shy.
God knows I have made my share of mistakes. Though I have always respected women, I have done and said things that were inappropriate. I have been in relationships for all of the wrong reasons. I have been impatient and intolerant. I have tried to control things that I could not. Much of this can be attributed to immaturity and the need to grow as a man. I have grown, but there is still work to do.
My name is Tim and this site is devoted to dating and relationships. It is written to help us help each other in finding good, lasting, loving relationships through dating and communicating with men and women. If you notice I said us not others. This is because I need help just as much as anyone and hope through the feedback of others to get it.
First a little about myself.
I am a single, Christian, 44 year old African-American male who has never been married nor fathered any children. Most people would find that strange and I am asked all of the time how this has happened. The answer to this is complex.
I am very shy around people in general especially women (that's a post for another day). I am selective in my choice of women (anyone already in a relationship of any kind, married or single is off limits). I respect every woman that I am dating or in a relationship with. For that matter I respect every woman, period. I will never do anything that they do not want me to do. And, yes, I have been hurt a time or two so am a little gun shy.
God knows I have made my share of mistakes. Though I have always respected women, I have done and said things that were inappropriate. I have been in relationships for all of the wrong reasons. I have been impatient and intolerant. I have tried to control things that I could not. Much of this can be attributed to immaturity and the need to grow as a man. I have grown, but there is still work to do.
Through it all, I do not have ill will towards any woman that I have ever been in a relationship with and am still on good terms with ALL of them. To this day I love them all.
The fact that I am single does not mean that I haven't experienced much of the same experiences as others who are married or divorced. I have been in relationships that ended on good terms and bad. I have been in relationships when one person or the other was inflexible. I have been in relationships with others who were in relationships (but never sexually). I have been in relationships that meant more to me than the woman and vice versa. I have NEVER been in an abusive relationship.
I am the seventh and youngest boy of eight siblings, five of them women. We are all reflections of our mother who raised us and taught us to love and respect others. Each of my sisters is different and I have learned a lot from watching them, and my older brothers, in dealing with dating and relationships. I have also listened to my sisters in order to get a true understanding of what women want from a man and what I should look for in a mate. Having five sisters is an invaluable source when dealing with dating and relationships.
Like everyone, I have also seen relationships that have worked and those doomed to failure from the start. Watching those involved taught me much as well.
I would like this site to reflect what I have learned and to learn from others. I want to help men and women find the right person through dating and building solid, loving and trusting relationships while learning something from them as well. Each page category is geared towards doing this.
Though I know it is not possible, I would like to see everyone be successful at everything that they endeavor. I do not wish ill on anyone. The better people's lives are the more productive they are to society and we all benefit.
The truth is the only way for a person to be whole is through love of God, one's self and others. Without love we have nothing.
This site is about dating and relationships, but above all else it is about love.
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